Start at the Beginning: The Big Lie

Ok. Here's the ground rules.

Everyone lies. All the time. Small lies, mostly, just to make it thru the day, to smooth things over at work, to skip a fight for no reason over dinner. Lies of ommision the most common.

Most psychologists recognize denial as a primary (and healthy, for the most part) coping mechanism for humans. Read "A Mind of One's Own" or "The Happiness Hypothesis" for the more friendly version, if you're not in the mood for Jung or Horney.

But not here.

Here you have to work.
Or I guess I should say, here *I* have to work.


So no lies. That's the challenge. If you want to post comments here on my blog, you have to not lie. You have to not leave anything out. You have to admit it all. And so do I.

It sound easy. And it sounds like its been done before. But that's why I started this blog. Because if its been done before, it certainly hasn't been done *enough*. There's just too much reward for lying. About most everything. You can get more money, more sex, more power, more of just about everything, by lying.

The key in that sentence, however, is "just". Just about everything.

Except intimacy. Or truth (self-evident, but truth has non-contexual value to me. I think (again, key word) that its "true" that there is no God. That truth has value to me, regardless of whether it's used for anything or not. And yes, I think there is a life force, but that's a long, LONG discussion.)

Anyway, I used to think "friends" was on that list, but now i'm not sure. I think I tell the truth to my friends, but honestly I think when I do really tell them the truth, is when i really start to lose them. I guess it depends on *which* truth(s) you tell them. Because you can't tell them ALL of the truths. "Wow, your ex is really hot, i'd love 10 minutes with her in a hot tub." Or "Shit! What were you thinking when you slept with THAT guy?" Or "I think we only catch up for dinner when you have this idea that you're not spending enough time with your friends."

Things like that. Things that never really get said. But here, yes.

Or at least, maybe.

But I never lied to Joey. Joey knew everything.

Hence the blog title.

But, this being the loss of my blog virginity, I also realize that this may put Joey Da Fish out of bounds for some important people in my life to whom i have not been 100% truthful. Then again, let's face it, we probably lie most often to those we love, since you can view lying (see: denial above) as a way of protecting them. But we know that we only do that to protect ourselves.

Life's a bitch sometimes, right?

So, tell it, and tell it all. That's my motto.

This week, anyway.